Balancing emotions & responsibility

Lets understand about the relationship of parents with their children and how it is supposed to be. First of all, we develop two kind of relationship with our children, one is emotional and the other is responsibility . Emotions and responsibility remain two different things.

Suppose there is one mother, and her child learns or does something wrong, still because of emotions she says, “All right let him do it, nowadays all children are like this, what to say to the child, everything is fine.”

Another Mother is there who wants to make her children dutiful and responsible. For that she says to her children to get up early in the morning, be active, study hard, go to school in time, sit here, sit there, wear the clothes properly etc. and she is always behind her child to correct him.

Now I should tell you that this is not integrated. Today in Sahaja Yoga we have integration. Both the things (emotion and responsibility) have to be integrated. There has to be integration, not combination. The difference between combination and integration comes because our emotions should be responsibility and responsibility should be our emotions.

Like we love our children. Then we will say that because we love him so it is our duty and responsibility that he should walk on the right path. And he should walk on the right path because we love him. If we don’t correct our child or don’t tell him the right way to live then it means that we are emotionally dominating.

Then you say: “What is there in correcting them? Let it be, let them do what they want, they will be hurt if we correct them or scold them. Why to hurt them? Another person will think: No, even if they feel bad or get hurt, we have to purify them, cleanse them and make them shining.”

But when integration comes, then the person makes his own behavior and nature such that it affects the child